When I was in school, the teachers talked about the phases of life – such as birth, growth, decline and death. I only wish it were that simple. Over the past few years I have come to realize that there are lots of phases in life, and a lot of them revolve around family.
The roughest part of a teenagers life is having to deal with the raging hormones, and the uncertainty of life. Where will I work, where will I live, what kind of job will I have, who will I marry, what will my kids be like,,,,. All leaves so many unanswered questions. I think its part of that uncertainty of life that helps cause issues in relationships with parents and friends. So the first phase of life might be separation of the parent child bond. As the child grows and matures into a grown person, they start making decisions for themselves.
Maybe the growth phase should be replaced with a maturity phase. This is when the person gets to figure out what life is all about. When your out on your own and you have bills to pay, either pay your bills or your water and electricity is cut off.
After the growth phase might come the realization or maturity phase. This is when the young adult realizes that life is not a bed of roses. That maybe, just maybe, mom and dad might have been right.
Then comes the reconnection phase. This is when the person reconnects with their parents and maybe their long last school friends. The person has faced some tough trials in life, and through those trials the person has been shaped into something that they never thought would be.
Next may come the nurturing or grandparent phase. We will have to wait and see what life has in store during that phase.