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Why Do Fathers Disappear From Households

Washington Times has an interesting article about the relationships of fathers and their children – Fathers disappear from households across America. Even though the article is well-written, it is full of fluff. Nowhere did I see the author addressing the root causes of the problem.

Lets narrow the topic down to two points – personal responsibility and criminalization of non-custodial parents.

Personal Responsibility

As an example I am going to use a friend of the family who got knocked up by a guy who already had 4 kids by 4 different women. Lets place the blame where it belongs, on the mothers and the father.

With so many birth control options on the market, why aren’t women protecting themselves from getting knocked up?

Why isn’t the father being more responsible with his seed?

Who is to blame? Both the mother and the father.

Society does not want to point the finger at the mother and ask “why didn’t you protect yourself?” If the mother willingly spread her legs, or bent over, then she must share part of the blame.

Criminalization Of Non-Custodial Parents

I get so sick and tired of having to prove that I have the same rights as my ex-wife. Take my kids to enroll them on school, I have to bring a copy of the divorce decree. I wonder if women have to do the same thing? If a woman enrolls a child in school, do they have to prove they have a legal right to enroll the child?

Lazy moms cost the economy 100 billion dollars

You want to know what is really nice about our society? We get to demonize certain groups, and then victimize other groups. An example of this is an article posted on CNN – unpaid child support cost tax payers $53 billion.

The article talks about how when the dead beat dad does not pay child support, and the child has to go on public assistance, this cost the tax payers billions of dollars every year.

To be fair to both sides of the issue, lets spin that article around. The article states “41% of households headed by single women are below the poverty level.”

In other words, 41% of households where the woman is too lazy to go to college or learn a trade or sill, those families are below the poverty level.

Instead of saying its the dead beat dads fault that the mom and children are living in poverty, lets lay the blame where it belongs, on the mom. How many of those moms living in poverty have anything besides a high school diploma? How many have a science degree such as engineering or computer sciences? How many of them sit on their butt and expect other people to provide for them?

If the dead beat dad is expected to have a job and support his children, then the dead beat mom should also be expected to have a job. Need more money to take care of your children? Get your ass up, get an education or job skills and get a job.

Do not stand there and complain that they dead beat dad is not providing for the child.

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