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We Need Shows Like Hee Haw

Would you like to know what is wrong with society? We need more Hee Haw and less reality TV shows. We need something families can sit in front up and have a good laugh.

As I write this post I am 49 years old, and will turn 50 in a few months. When I was a kid in the 1970s, mom, dad, my brother and I would watch Hee Haw. More or less mom and dad would watch the show and my brother and I would sit in the living room with them.

It was an hour filled with good family time, talking, laughing and having a good time. After Hee Haw was over, it would be time for a bath and bed.

Society needs something to bring families back together, and not drug, sex and violence laden reality TV shows.

Parents of Daughters Likely to Vote Republican

Kevin Felts political commentator

There is an article on yahoo shine about why parents of daughters are more likely to vote Republican than to vote democrat.

While the article is “kind of” insightful, I think it misses the mark. Rather than focusing on core Republican values, the article goes off into left field talking about sex.

Sex is a small part of the issue. The larger issue at hand is this thing called “responsibility.”

The article states,

Parents of daughters, it seems, have an interest in reducing male promiscuity.

Personally, I think male promiscuity has little to do with the issue. The larger issue here is taking responsibility for your actions.

Between promiscuity and taking responsibility for your actions, I feel taking responsibility reflects a larger percentage of the Republican party. Family values, taking responsibility for the children you bring into the world, holding a job,,,, are all part of the Republican party stands for.

Why Do Fathers Disappear From Households

Kevin Felts political commentator

Washington Times has an interesting article about the relationships of fathers and their children – Fathers disappear from households across America. Even though the article is well-written, it is full of fluff. Nowhere did I see the author addressing the root causes of the problem.

Lets narrow the topic down to two points – personal responsibility and criminalization of non-custodial parents.

Personal Responsibility

As an example I am going to use a friend of the family who got knocked up by a guy who already had 4 kids by 4 different women. Lets place the blame where it belongs, on the mothers and the father.

With so many birth control options on the market, why aren’t women protecting themselves from getting knocked up?

Why isn’t the father being more responsible with his seed?

Who is to blame? Both the mother and the father.

Society does not want to point the finger at the mother and ask “why didn’t you protect yourself?” If the mother willingly spread her legs, or bent over, then she must share part of the blame.

Criminalization Of Non-Custodial Parents

I get so sick and tired of having to prove that I have the same rights as my ex-wife. Take my kids to enroll them on school, I have to bring a copy of the divorce decree. I wonder if women have to do the same thing? If a woman enrolls a child in school, do they have to prove they have a legal right to enroll the child?

Lazy Mothers Cost the Economy 100 Billion Dollars

Kevin Felts political commentator

You want to know what is really nice about our society? We get to demonize certain groups, and then victimize other groups.

An example of this is an article posted on CNN – unpaid child support cost tax payers $53 billion.

The article talks about how dead beat dads do not pay child support, and if the child has to go on public assistance, this cost the tax payers billions of dollars every year.

If society wanted a fair and balanced system, make sure both sides share an equal burden. In the case of child support, an unfair portion of the burden has been placed on the dad.

To be fair to both sides of the issue, lets spin that article around. The article states “41% of households headed by single women are below the poverty level.”

In other words, 41% of households where the woman is too lazy to go to college or learn a trade or skill, those families are below the poverty level.

Bad Kids Smoke More Than Good Kids

Article on Time.com showing children diagnosed with ADHD are more likely to smoke then kids not diagnosed with the disorder.

In other words, kids who lack self-control and discipline are more likely to smoke then kids who have self-control and have discipline.

Is there really a big surprise there?

If a kid will not listen to the parents or teachers, what makes us think the child will listen and understand warnings about drugs?

Little Johnny, if you do not do good in school you will have problems finding a job. Little Johnny is a brat in school and does not want to do as he is told.

Little Johnny, if you do drugs you will become addicted which will lead to a life of crime. Little Johnny gets strung out on crack, then starts breaking into homes to support his drug habit.

Who do we blame? The kid, the parents, the school, society?

Personally I blame the parents and society.

Why Are Humans so Violent

Back in the late 1980s or early 1990s there was a story that came out of Lake Charles Louisiana about a missing girl. The community had organized search efforts, people organized, looked through wooded areas, people put up posters,,,.

The turning point was when the local police got a list of convicted sex offenders. One of the sex offenders happened to live close to the girl. When the police questioned the guy about the girl, he confessed to killing her. The girls body was still in his house.

It just so happened that the killer also volunteered to search for the girl.

What kind of sicko kills a child, then helps look for the body?

More recently there is the story of the 12 year old girl from New Jersey who was killed for her bicycle. The accused perpetrators in this act are 15 and 17 years old.

What does this say about the future of our society when children kill each other over bike parts?

Families overwhelmed at every corner

Is it just me, or does it seem that the average American family is being overwhelmed at every corner.

A couple of days ago my stepdaughter posted on facebook she spent $345 at walmart.

That is equal to someone making $10 an hour for 40 hours minus taxes. One trip to walmart wipes out a whole weeks worth of wages.

Then there is this report from fox news that says parents are being overwhelmed by child care cost – American Parents Overwhelmed by Growing Childcare Costs | Fox Business

How are people supposed to get ahead and stay ahead when the basic cost of living keeps going up?

In 2003 I was making about the same amount of money I was making a decade earlier. But on the flip side of the coin, prices had gone up every year during that last decade.

While I was working at a welding shop in southeast Texas, at my 1 year review I was given a 25 cent raise. The cost of inflation over the past year was more then that 25 cent raise. The price of gas had gone up more over the previous year to the point where that 25 cent raise did not even cover changes to the price of fuel. I finally left that welding shop. If an employer will not even keep their wages up with the rate of inflation, then the employees are losing money.

Showing affection towards a child

Over the years I have seen lots of new parents that di not hold their children a lot, or comfort them when their crying – because the parents do not want to “spoil” the child. When I try to explain that lack of physical contact leads to social and behavioral problems later in life, it appears that my words fall on deaf ears.

Humans are social animals, we herd together to feel safe and to feel loved. Its just part of nature. But for some reason certain parents feel that holding their child, does more harm then good.

Preparedness Planning and Baby Food Considerations

If there is one aspect of disaster planning that is often over looked, that is baby food and baby formula. While on a recent 3 day trip to the camp, one of the first supplies to run out was my grandsons baby formula. My stepdaughter did not pack enough of the dry powdered formula to get through the 3 day stay. This was no big deal. We just drove back to town, which was about a 20 minute drive.

But, what would things had been like if we had been in a disaster area? After regional or localized disasters, such as earthquakes or hurricanes – the government says to be prepared for at least 72 hours, which is 3 days. During this time do not expect any help or relief services.

With the power outages that may follow a disaster, dry baby formula might have the advantage over milk or other liquid formulas because it does not require refrigeration. With the dry formula mix, as long as there is a supply of safe drinking water, the formula can be mixed to make the babies food.

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