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Starting a New Phase in Life

Kevin Felts political commentator

I feel like I am starting a new phase in life. Here I am at 46 years old (almost 47), finished paying my child support almost a year ago and starting a new career. Is this how life is supposed to work?

When I finished high school in 1986 my fiance’s grandfather helped me get a job at a welding shop in southeast Texas. The pay was pretty bad, but at least I was learning something. From 1986 – 1999 I bounced around various welding shops hoping the pay and benefits would get better, but they never did.

1995 I went to Lamar College in Port Arthur for a degree in computer information systems. Working a full time job, being a parent, being a husband and going to college takes dedication.

1999 – 2000 my life fell apart. I lost my job due to the company making poor decisions. It sure is funny how the CEO make make terrible decisions and everyone else has to pay the price. Then in 2000 my wife of 14 years filed for divorce. In all honesty I was tired of her screaming, fit-throwing and refusing to control her spending. In the long run divorcing her was probably the best thing that happened to me. But it would take years to make progress in my life.

1999 – 2014 were rough years

Judge Lisa Millard Should Be Removed From Office

Kevin Felts blogger and political commentator

Judge Lisa Millard sentenced Clifford Hall 6 months in in jail for a crime he did not commit.

It seems that his child support payments were modified without his knowledge, which violates the due process clause of the U.S. constitution. The Fifth Amendment to the United States Constitution guarantees that the government can not take a persons property or liberty without a chance to present their own evidence in a court of law.

Judge Lisa Millard should be removed from office and prohibited from every holding a public office, or any office that has authority over the people. Judge Lisa Millard along with the Harris county child support office is a perfect example of how dads are being driven into child support induced poverty.

Child Support Social Inequality

Kevin Felts political commentator

Here we have another example of child support social inequality – the father is ordered not to have anymore kids, but the mothers are not ordered to do anything.

Society points the finger at the father and says – “do not have more kids then you can support.” What does the mother get? Does she ridiculed for having sex with a man that does not want to support the children they made? Is the mother ordered to get a job and provide health insurance?

The last time I went to a child support review, I saw several dads being put on probation, one father was arrested and handcuffed right there in the court room. Some dads were sentenced to 2 years in jail, but the sentence was deferred as long s they were making payments. If they missed a payment he would be arrested and put in jail.

During the time I was sitting in the court room watching these fathers being sentenced, not a single mother was charged with not paying child support. There were several mothers who did not show up for their hearing a bench warrant was issued for their arrest, not a single deadbeat mom appeared before the judge.

Why Do Fathers Disappear From Households

Kevin Felts political commentator

Washington Times has an interesting article about the relationships of fathers and their children – Fathers disappear from households across America. Even though the article is well-written, it is full of fluff. Nowhere did I see the author addressing the root causes of the problem.

Lets narrow the topic down to two points – personal responsibility and criminalization of non-custodial parents.

Personal Responsibility

As an example I am going to use a friend of the family who got knocked up by a guy who already had 4 kids by 4 different women. Lets place the blame where it belongs, on the mothers and the father.

With so many birth control options on the market, why aren’t women protecting themselves from getting knocked up?

Why isn’t the father being more responsible with his seed?

Who is to blame? Both the mother and the father.

Society does not want to point the finger at the mother and ask “why didn’t you protect yourself?” If the mother willingly spread her legs, or bent over, then she must share part of the blame.

Criminalization Of Non-Custodial Parents

I get so sick and tired of having to prove that I have the same rights as my ex-wife. Take my kids to enroll them on school, I have to bring a copy of the divorce decree. I wonder if women have to do the same thing? If a woman enrolls a child in school, do they have to prove they have a legal right to enroll the child?

Lazy Mothers Cost the Economy 100 Billion Dollars

Kevin Felts political commentator

You want to know what is really nice about our society? We get to demonize certain groups, and then victimize other groups.

An example of this is an article posted on CNN – unpaid child support cost tax payers $53 billion.

The article talks about how dead beat dads do not pay child support, and if the child has to go on public assistance, this cost the tax payers billions of dollars every year.

If society wanted a fair and balanced system, make sure both sides share an equal burden. In the case of child support, an unfair portion of the burden has been placed on the dad.

To be fair to both sides of the issue, lets spin that article around. The article states “41% of households headed by single women are below the poverty level.”

In other words, 41% of households where the woman is too lazy to go to college or learn a trade or skill, those families are below the poverty level.

Child Support Induced Poverty

I was wanting to read some child support horror stories, so I did a search for “child support induced poverty”. The funny thing is, no exact results came back.

Kevin Felts blogger and survivalistAre non-custodial parents embarrassed to talk about how the child support laws are like a meat grinder? Or how the custodial parent gets a free lawyer in child support court, but the non-custodial parent gets raped in the ass? Or how the state meat grinder attorney general looking for child support drives families into poverty?

Are people embarrassed to talk about these things? If so, maybe its time for a change.

Child support induced poverty is when the non-custodial parent is pushed into poverty through child support payments, and other ordered payments, such as mandated health care and orders to pay 1/2 of the health care bills.

What does the custodial parent have to do? Nothing but sit on their ass and collect payments. The custodial parent is in no way responsible for providing for the child. They are not required to provide health care coverage, not required to get a job,,, they are required to do “nothing”.

The thing with child support laws, the laws are supposed to make parents responsible for the children. When the non-custodial parent is not required to do anything, where is the responsibility in that?

What I am about to tell you is a true story. The names have been changed to protect the guilty.

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